Why You Dread Monday (And It’s Not What You Think): The Truth About Workplace Trauma
What Is Workplace Trauma, Exactly? Think of trauma as what happens when your nervous system gets stuck in the “on” position. It’s not just about bad things happening at work—it’s about experiences that overwhelm your ability to process them, leaving your stress response system perpetually activated, like a car alarm that won’t shut off. Workplace […]
Breaking the Burnout Cycle: Overcoming Perfectionism and Helplessness
Perfectionism, helplessness, and other internal factors can significantly contribute to burnout, a state of physical and emotional exhaustion often accompanied by a sense of reduced accomplishment and loss of personal identity. While external stressors play a role, our internal thought patterns and behaviors can exacerbate or even create conditions ripe for burnout. Now, perfectionism – […]
How to Stop Second-Guessing Yourself at Life’s Crossroads
When you come to a fork in your life’s road, it’s tempting to agonize over making the “correct” choice. But here’s a secret: the exact route you take matters far less than the mindset you bring to the journey. Every step is a chance to consult your inner Sage, checking that your path aligns with […]
Supercharge Team Ideation with the ‘Yes, And…’ Technique
We get so bogged down in the mundane and practical in life, don’t we? Always analyzing, criticizing, tamping down those wild ideas before they can even sprout wings. Well it’s time to reconnect with your inner innovator and dream big again! One of my favorite ways to unleash the untamed imaginings of the subconscious […]
Curiosity Killed the Cat, But Can Save Your Career: The Power of Explore Mode
Have you ever watched a tiny tot toddling along the shore, picking up stones, peering under them with unabashed curiosity to see what lies beneath? That’s the Sage (Our Wise self) Explore mode in its purest form – all fascination, wonder, with no agenda other than to discover. Even in the thick of calamity, the […]
Embrace Empathy: Your Guide to Inner Peace and Power in 2024
As we begin this new year it is often an opportunity for our inner critic to get busy! “You didn’t do enough last year. You better get busy this year.” This world can be so harsh, can’t it? So many people attacking themselves and others for not meeting impossibly high standards. It breaks my […]
The Victim Saboteur
I think most of us would hesitate to accept that we may have the Victim Saboteur as one of our coping mechanisms. We don’t like to think of ourselves as victims. But the Victim Saboteur is very effective at least in the short term in helping us get our needs met. So it’s no […]
The Stickler Saboteur – My Way or the Highway!
The Stickler Saboteur has some many admirable characteristics. They are hard workers and dependable. If a project needs doing, they will be the ones staying late to make sure it is done “right.” Many people who are victims of this saboteur will admit that they are a “little bit perfectionistic.” They believe that there is […]
The Restless Saboteur – What’s Next?
May I introduce you to The Restless Saboteur? If you are driven by this saboteur you are probably already thinking that there are better things to do with your life then read a blog entry! The Restless Saboteur has a very hard time focusing on the present moment and feeling contentment in that moment. You […]
The Pleaser Saboteur- What Can I Do for You?
It’s easy to guess why the Pleaser Saboteur is a “favorite” of so many of us. Starting very young our survival ( or so we thought) was linked to making our caregivers happy. We learned to please others to get along in this world. ” If my teacher likes me he/she will give me better […]