You know what I’ve learned? That we’re not meant to go through this life alone! In the book “Burnout,” Emily and Amelia Nagoski shared something that resonated deep in my soul – this idea of the “stress cycle.” Listen, we all face stress, that’s just life, we need to complete that cycle! And let me tell you something I know for sure: nothing, and I mean NOTHING, completes that cycle like genuine connection with another human being. When someone truly sees you – all of you – that’s when your body can finally exhale.
Now, I’ve seen this “human giver syndrome” up close and personal – where we’re taught that our value comes from constantly giving to others until there’s nothing left for ourselves. I’ve been there! Many of us, especially women, have been there! But here’s the beautiful truth I’ve discovered: when we come together in authentic community, we create spaces where EVERYONE’S needs matter. Where you can practice receiving – yes, RECEIVING – the care that your beautiful soul deserves.
Let me tell you something powerful – connection isn’t just nice to have, it’s NECESSARY! The Nagoskis confirmed what I’ve felt in my heart for years: we are wired for connection! When we experience those magical moments together – singing, dancing, celebrating – our bodies release healing hormones. I call these “soul connections,” and they’re as essential to your wellbeing as the air you breathe! Those moments when you feel truly connected to others? That’s not just happiness – that’s your body healing itself!
I believe – and I know this with every fiber of my being – that our path forward isn’t through more isolation. It’s through coming TOGETHER! Community care is the revolution we need. It’s about creating circles where everyone feels safe to be vulnerable, to ask for help, to show up exactly as they are. I’ve seen this transformation countless times – when people build these supportive communities, they don’t just survive, they THRIVE! That’s the truth I want you to take into your heart today: your healing is connected to mine, and together, we rise.
Practical steps to create soul connections and community.
- Practice deep listening – When someone speaks, give them your complete attention. Put away devices, maintain eye contact, and resist planning your response while they’re talking. Ask thoughtful follow-up questions that show you’re truly hearing them. Soul connections begin when people feel genuinely heard and understood at a level beyond casual conversation.
- Share vulnerably – Meaningful connections require emotional risk. Start by sharing something slightly vulnerable about yourself – a struggle you’re facing, a fear you’re working through, or a hope that matters deeply to you. This invitation to authenticity creates space for others to reciprocate, allowing relationships to move beyond surface-level pleasantries.
- Honor sacred time together – Create distraction-free, quality time with others where the focus is solely on being present. Whether it’s a walk in nature, a meal without phones, or sitting in comfortable silence, these unrushed moments allow souls to attune to each other in ways that rushed interactions never permit.
- Celebrate each other’s humanity – Acknowledge both the strengths and imperfections in yourself and others. When someone shares a struggle, resist the urge to immediately fix or advise. Instead, respond with “thank you for trusting me with that” or “I see you.” This acceptance of our complete humanity—both light and shadow—creates profound connection.
- Create meaningful rituals – Establish small traditions that honor your connection. This might be a monthly meal, sharing gratitude before parting ways, exchanging handwritten notes, or commemorating significant moments together. These rituals become anchors that continuously deepen your soul connection over time.
Have an Amazing Monday (and everyday!),
Leanna Fredrich, Leadership, Career and Stress-Management Coach
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